Can You Really Fall in Love with 36 Questions?

Have you heard of this? All you need to do to fall in love with someone is ask these 36 questions and the magic will happen. Are these questions deeply personal? Heck yeah. Will it be tough to corner your date into answering these questions? You bet. But according to psychologist, Arthur Aron, participants feel “greater closeness” after conducting this questionnaire – which isn’t exactly falling in love, but certainly worth a try if you want to get to know someone better.

It’s called the Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness. I know, it sounds like a lot of gobbledygook to me too, but “science” backs this theory. The best way to get close and connect with another individual is to share information about ourselves – and to do so honestly. The questionnaire takes about 45 minutes, which is a really long time to spend talking about deep, personal shit with someone you barely know, don’t you think? So I recommend saving this for the fourth date, whether you’ve consummated the relationship or not.

There are the three sets of 12 questions, totaling 36. Each section has an uptick in complexity and holy-crap-I-can’t-believe-you-want-me-to-answer-that. It is recommended that you take turns asking the questions, and the person asking goes first. Grab that little sand time-keeper that comes with board games to keep this thing moving. You’ll be so glad you did. Especially during those embarrassing revelations like how you wet the bed until age 12, to suddenly hear, “Times up!” is a great thing.

But even a relationship rookie knows communication is key. Shouldn’t this type of interrogation discussion take place organically over time? Not so, say scientists. In today’s culture when you can swipe your way to a new person by the minute/day/week the sooner you can learn if you are compatible, or it you aren’t, the better.

Here are the 4 most invasive questions in each section to give you an idea of what you are in for.

Section 1

  1. If you were able to live to be 90 and retain either the mind or the body of a 30 year-old, which would it be?
  2. Do you have a secret hunch how you will die? If so what is it?
  3. If you could change anything about how you were raised, what would it be?
  4. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one attribute, what would it be?

Section 2

  1. What is your most terrible memory?
  2. What does friendship mean to you?
  3. How close and warm is your family?
  4. How do you feel about the relationship with your mother?

Section 3

  1. When’s the last time you cried in front of someone?
  2. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with your loved ones, what would you most regret not telling someone?
  3. Your house, containing everything, catches fire. After rescuing your loved ones and pets, you have enough time to run back and get one item. What would it be?
  4. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing?

Crazy, huh? Some of the question will have quick answers while some require more thought and reflection. When you’re ready, sit back in a quiet area, have a glass of wine, and follow this link if you want to know all 36 questions to fall in love. While I’m not convinced you will fall in love, it can quickly clear up who not to fall in love with. In the case that you are already in love and married, it could be fun to see how compatible you two actually are. But don’t freak out if you aren’t. At the end of the day it boils down to respect.

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  • It’s funny how we can become close with others by talking about personal things. I like these questions, and the answers can be quite telling of whether you would want to be in a relationship with someone or not.

    • comedytherapy

      That’s how I feel about these questions. They can tell you who not to fall in love with. Thanks for reading!